My goal for this time is to look for red flags of immaturity, selfishness, or an unhealthy relationship. If a couple cannot come up with 12 reasons to marry the other person and 12 reasons to get married now, that's also a red flag.
What will you receive out of marriage that you wouldn’t receive by remaining single?
Share 12 reasons why you want to marry the other person and 12 indications as to why this is the time of your life to marry.
Unhealthy Reasons for Marriage:
To spite or get back at your parents.
Because of a negative self-image—marrying your fiancé will make you feel worthwhile and will give meaning to your life.
False idealism—thinking you’ll be happy because you’re married.
To be a therapist or counselor to your fiancé.
Fear of being left out. Being left as a bachelor or old maid.
Fear of independence.
Marrying on the rebound—you were hurt in a former love relationship and to ease your hurt you immediately choose another.
Fear of hurting the other person—you’re afraid of what will happen to your fiancé if you break up even though you know that marriage is not the answer.
To escape an unhappy home.
Financial stability—needing someone else to support you financially.
Because you are pregnant or your fiancé is pregnant.
Because you have had sex.
Because the other person looks physically attractive.
Positive Reasons for Marriage:
Companionship.
To work together and fulfill your own and your future mate’s needs.
To fulfill sexual needs in the way God intends.
Love: a mixture between eros, philia and agape.
Because you are convinced that it is God’s will for you to marry this person.
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